And then I get home and there's this video sitting on Facebook just waiting for me to watch.
I didn't stand idly by as they tried to make that an insult. I interjected with the appropriate remarks to both the players and the coaches. "Really," I would say, "Stop acting like the strong woman who bore your children?". "Stop acting like your daughter who plays on the all star basketball team?" "Stop acting like your coach who can kick your ass during conditioning?" "Stop acting like the referee who, by the way, ref's a better game than ANY male referee that I've dealt with?". "Stop acting like Serena Williams?".
Stop using "Acting like a girl" as an insult, as a way to belittle someone. Besides, our jobs as coaches is not to insult and belittle, it is to correct and encourage. If they are doing something wrong call it what it is and fix it. "Stop running the wrong route, learn your plays!". "Explode forward and run faster!", "Hit them before they hit you!", "Stop dragging your feet!".
You can see in the video that before young girls have been exposed to society, young girls are self-confident and sure of themselves. They know that like a girl means they are strong and able. Somewhere along the way that thought process changes, and suddenly being a girl becomes a sign of weakness, of ineptness.
We are all mothers and fathers and sisters and brothers. We all have sisters and mothers and aunts and cousins. So why is acting like a girl an insult? We score, we get there, we do it right! We lift weights and practice for hours on end. We work, we raise children. We climb trees while wearing dresses! We dance in high-heels! I'd like to see any boy do that!
What I am saying is that "I am strong and I am invincible, because I am a girl! That's the message that we should be sending.